Another welcome aboard NewVillage,
There are many like you here that have also been down that very long road of self discovery through self teaching, so I hope you don't feel an 'outsider'. There's plenty of opinion here to consider on what constitutes
an effective 'way' of progressing through self teaching, so try not to be too sensitive about asking for that.
It goes without saying that professional teaching will always provide an effective return. If the fates however, have conspired to ensure that isn't possible for some, then you're left to your own devices and the best support systems you can manage. Fortunately the resources available now for the 'go it alone' student have increased substantially and there's some good quality publications, CD's, videos etc available for this purpose.
I wouldn't be too hard on yourself about sampling a wide range of materials at this stage either, as your just 'entering the grid' so to speak and will have no definite ideas on where you wish to go. Its mostly exploration at this time, patrolling the boundaries, sampling, listening, connecting etc to discover which
style of music or specific pieces have some appeal. When you've worked through a good pile of that, you will find some recurring themes then start to emerge which then allows you to start sorting a suitable repertoir
for more consitent practice. Alternatively, you could consider simply following some of the more programmed
self instructional courses initially, to help gain the necessary sight reading and music fundamentals and when that's in the bag start to branch out more into the exploratory world. Perhaps the most important elements of all of this includes :
remain enthusiastic about playing something, preferrably an easy piece each day.
play all new material very, very slowly. Half speed CD's or sound tracks are still too fast in my opinion, for
new players. Slow it right down to distinct notes in a bar, and only allow the speed to increase when you've got sufficient fluidity . If you have difficulty next time you try to play the same piece, ignore the frustration and simply return to the slow, slow approach. It does eventually come but may take many less than happy returns.
establish a suitable place and time to consistently practise, to help ensure you're not disturbed.
garner a few attractive pieces wherever you can, and set these up as your background studies (etudes)
the old favourites like Carulli, Carcassi, Sor, Mertz, Aguado, Von Call, Guilaini et al, all include some beginners pieces that are also a delight to play.
Enjoy the journey.