Mollbarre wrote: ↑
Mon May 06, 2019 1:55 pm
What term would you prefer?
I don't think it needs a term. To me, framing one's hopes and dreams and aspirations and goals in terms of "I had better do this now before I die" puts an ominous and pessimistic dark cloud over something that should be wonderful and positive and life-affirming. It shifts the focus of the moment from the present to the future (to "the end", in fact), and perhaps even deprives the thing in question of a lot of its meaning: something is meaningful when it is done for its own sake, not for the sake of something else. Thus the idea of "a bucket list" reflects an attitude towards life that I simply do not understand nor share, a negative mindset that seems quite contrary to the aim of enjoying life. I do try to live my life to the fullest, always seeking and learning and growing as a person, and in so doing, I celebrate every moment for what it is, for the happiness and enrichment that it brings to me. To think of it as something to cross off a list before I croak would definitely take some of the joy out of it.
Of course, maybe a lot of people haven't given the term a second thought, and perhaps none of my reservations about it have even occurred to most people, and that's entirely probable. But, I like to choose my words carefully (even if I never say them or write them), and have them reflect who I am and what I think and feel, and some words and terms, especially for how one approaches and perceives life and how one lives it, are simply appalling to me, "bucket list" included.