1. Your wrist is never aligned in the two videos, so not sure what you are talking about above when you say your biggest problem is when the wrist is aligned.
2. I think what Alexander is saying is that your guitar is too far to your left (our right as we look at the video). I didn't notice this before but your support leg (your left leg) is not pointing straight in front of you but is pointing at a significant angle to your left. So when you put your guitar on it, it is way off. Fix that and the wrist and it should make a huge difference.
3. My avatar picture is me playing a flamenco guitar, so the guitar is on my right (not left) leg; that posture has no direct relevance to yours. Also the shot is taken from a 30-35 degree angle rather than from the front directly; the guitar looks dead ahead because as I play it it is not parallel to my body but at that same angle as the shot. Check out my left wrist, though - neutral position despite fairly awkward fingering.
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